Quite often my work with clients in counseling focuses on friendship. Friendships are an important piece of well-being, work-life balance and add so much to a sense of belonging. I hear frequently in my counseling office about the loneliness clients feel and the difficulty they have making friends as adults. School and college made friendships more accessible and there was quite a big pool to choose from when looking for friends. As adults, the pool is much smaller and sometimes really hard to find! Many adults are working from home or own their own businesses which can be quite isolating. Many of our friendships have changed over the years; friends have moved, life-stages have gone in different directions and even personalities and preferences change. The mass of friends that clients once had is now a dwindled few and those may be even spread out over the country. Clients are regularly sharing how difficult that feels and how hard it is to make new authentic friendships. Our culture has become increasingly isolated. Technology is at our fingertips but true friends are hard to find and there seems to be a decreased ability to foster deep friendships. Our social media accounts say we have hundreds of friends and followers and we feel great when we have lots of 'likes' to a post. But how often are we sitting down face to face and actually connecting and sharing with a friend? When is the last time you initiated a coffee date with a friend and asked questions about how they are really doing? When is the last time you've shared vulnerably with a friend about what is truly going on in your life? Have you tried out a new church or group that would put you around people with like interests? Have you initiated getting to know someone new? Friendships are important and they take intention and initiative to develop, not to mention quite a bit of time. If you are feeling lonely and wondering how to create healthy, deep friendships - you are not alone! Counseling can be a great venue to explore barriers to the development of healthy friendships. Therapy can also help to booster your communication skills so that the friendships you have and the ones you are creating will be lasting and authentic.